When one knows that a friend is distressed, and one doesn’t quite know how to console, provide some kind of solace- tell the friend, that everything will be fine- that this too shall pass- but one just cannot find the right words, then waht does one do?
There are different kinds of friendships- in some one can say just about anything- finding words, expressions is not a hurdle at all- but then there are those other friendships where though the feelings may run deep the persons involved do not indulge in actually expressing them- the mode of communication is mostly mutual raillery, pulling legs in harmless jest, where resorting to words to express sentiment is embarrassing- though the concern and care essentially remains the same. Where so many things have been left unsaid- the harsher facts of life were left undisturbed- where one pretended like pain and sorrow were mere trifles- well, not pretence exactly – but yes one did not touch topics which could hurt or haunt…
Then how does one use words of solace- She knew her friend was the resilient type- that she would emerge stronger from her tribulations, and still she wanted to let her know that she was there, that she knew, that she understood, but she found no words and so she resorted to silence and hoped her friend heard her unsaid words, prayers and understood...
There are different kinds of friendships- in some one can say just about anything- finding words, expressions is not a hurdle at all- but then there are those other friendships where though the feelings may run deep the persons involved do not indulge in actually expressing them- the mode of communication is mostly mutual raillery, pulling legs in harmless jest, where resorting to words to express sentiment is embarrassing- though the concern and care essentially remains the same. Where so many things have been left unsaid- the harsher facts of life were left undisturbed- where one pretended like pain and sorrow were mere trifles- well, not pretence exactly – but yes one did not touch topics which could hurt or haunt…
Then how does one use words of solace- She knew her friend was the resilient type- that she would emerge stronger from her tribulations, and still she wanted to let her know that she was there, that she knew, that she understood, but she found no words and so she resorted to silence and hoped her friend heard her unsaid words, prayers and understood...
3 comments:
It so happens to me all the time. I'm always - so full of words but when I need them the most - they fail me.
Then I hv felt too - sometimes silence speak volumes when words sound merely a formality.
Most times when I dont have words to console...I just listen.
well, its very common that one feels he/she has a lot to say.. but simply is choked with emotion.. its very hard to say anything.. and you simply go blank..
nice one
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